You just had wonderful kids, you landed a great career and things are going really great for you. There are more things in your life than you had ever imagined. But suddenly, you find yourself unable to handle your responsibilities. The stresses of all your duties start to catch up with you. You feel like the weight on your back is getting heaver each day. You want to feel happy and content but your many obligations somehow manage to drain you out and leave you exhausted and worn out. What do you do when things are just too crazy for you to handle? How can you juggle work and motherhood and still stay sane?
These are questions that working mums often encounter as they live each day of their busy lives. I am a working mum like you and also experienced in coaching for women so I perfectly understand how difficult it is to walk on a rope and juggle between family life and career management. I know how to be stressed with different responsibilities and how stressful it is to know that a lot of people are counting on you to give them time and attention. Before you give up or allow your life to spiral into craziness, you need to take a step back, relax and take a deep breath. The first thing you need to do when you start to feel this way is to have an “attitude change.”
Yes, everything starts with your attitude—that is, the way you view your predicament, your blessings and life in general. You have to view things realistically, admitting your strong and weak points and acknowledging the difficulties. But at the same time, you need to see past your present situation and strongly hold on to the things that will keep you motivated and energized. You have to be fully aware that you are doing all these things out of love and not out of obligation and you must appreciate the wonderful role that you have assumed ever since you were blessed with motherhood.
After you have done some reflection and have changed the way you are looking at things, it’s time to think again of the issues that you have to get rid of or personal characteristics that you might have to change. Professional coaching groups would suggest that you need to make an evaluation of where you are in your walk in the motherhood route. Are you being derailed? Are you moving too slow or too fast? Is there any excess baggage that is slowing you down and making it difficult for you to move forward? Evaluate your existing circumstances and assess what needs to be altered or what objectives need to be met. The moment you have a clearer view of your situation, it will be easier for you to create a plan.
Making a game plan is of course the next step. You must chart your course and figure out which direction you are heading. It will enable you to avoid activities that are not useful to your journey or just taking you away from the right direction. Online life coaching experts suggest that you have to know which activities you have to hold on to and which ones you have to let go. Taking charge does not just mean controlling things, it also means letting go of those that are impossible for you to control. You need to be kind to yourself before you can be kind to others. Avoid spreading yourself too thinly. This will only make you a doer of all things without you becoming efficient in any of them. Once you have charted out your course, it will be a lot easier for you to take your big steps towards motherhood success.